First of all, let me say - I'm looking out the window, after 6-8-10 inches of snow yesterday, and there are flakes falling from the sky. Haven't we had enough yet? Hasn't my 8 hours at work with only a handful of customers been enough torture? WHY?
Lately, I've been putting myself into bridal hell. While I am happy to make decisions that will affect me on my wedding day (sure? 12 hours in a dress that you can't sit in? bring it on.) or my future husband (yes, you should wear the tie that chokes the most because it's the best tie), I am overly hesitant to make decisions that could bring potential suffering on my bridesmaids.
Knowing in advance that I had the propensity to be a bridezilla, I am so fearful of stepping on my 'maids toes. Literally or figuratively and a thousand ways in between.
So, of course, I want to make decisions that bring happiness to the majority of the bridesmaids. Even if they won't tell me what their happiness is.
First choice: blue bridesmaids dresses. To go cobalt or navy, that is the question. Navy is the easy answer - it's neutral and would compliment a whole host of any other colors. But cobalt is more me.
Second choice: flowers. The flowers and dresses are intrinsically linked, mostly because they're going to be side-by-side for the majority of the wedding. In my classic/classy wannabe heart, flowers are red. Beautiful, deep red.
My colors. They are not blush and bashful, but they are blue, and red, and the ivory of my dress.
And the first thing my soon-to-be-florist said to me was along the lines of .... "um, potentially, that could look a bit American-themed..."
Which, to another bride, might sound insulting. However, this bride is rather fond of the Fourth of July and would have GLADLY gotten married amid a backdrop of fireworks. (One of the saddest parts of planning was realizing that fireworks on my big day would probably never be a reality to me.)
Ever since the florist mentioned it, though, I can't stop obsessing. I don't want my bridesmaids to feel like Superwoman. Or Ms. America? I'm not exactly sure, but I don't want them to feel like pageant rejects.
When you look at "real wedding" pictures, you get a lot of blue and green.
Or blue and yellow (and the picture disappeared. yay) Or blue on blue.
Or, as my florist suggested, blue and orange.
There's a LOT of blue and ivory/white...
And then you've got non-blue-blue with more red colors.
Aqua and red... (shudder. Those dresses don't look quite forgiving.)
This blue below is pretty right, although the red is a little... pink? I'm not sure. Maybe it's just the light.
If I had a quick snapshot of my overall inspirations with the wedding, it would look something like this.
Red and blue. Silver and gold.
But it's not something I've found easily on Pinterest. It's NOT listed in the 2013 Top Wedding Color Schemes Guides. Or any other years that I can find. Effing Pinterest.
If nobody told me that it wasn't possible, I don't think I'd think anything of it. Some of my favorite colors, favorite things. Bold, classic.
I love all of your beautiful Grecian-gown weddings, with your blush and bashful color schemes. I know that's very popular - and incredibly beautiful. I just view myself with the color saturation turned way up.
And then the doubt creeps in. I'm no decorator or event planner. I like to think I can dress myself ok, but I SUCK with color schemes and decorating. I couldn't decorate my way out of a paper bag.
I have no idea where I was trying to go with this post. I of course wanted reassurance that I'm not screwing up All The Things.
Ditch the cobalt and go for navy and red?
Ditch the red and go for blue and orange? (Weep. I don't think this is an option.)
Mix and match my red bouquet with more orange-based bouquets for the maids?
Will my bridesmaids feel ugly? Will I be the bride who would do this to the girls she loves the most?
That is my biggest fear. The rest is just color schemes.